Indicators of Abuse

Domestic Violence is one of our most pressing social problems. It affects our lives, homes, communities, and our children. We must take whatever measures we can to stop or prevent domestic violence. Recognizing the early warning signs can help us prevent victimization of ourselves, friends, and families. The following are some behavioral signals that domestic violence is beginning:

    Early Warning Signs:

• Your partner has difficulty controlling anger, has a temper, and does not take responsibility for his own behavior.
• Your partner has a history of child abuse (either as a victim or perpetrator), or a history of abusing previous wives or girlfriends.
• Your partner sees violence as an acceptable means to resolve conflict.
• Your partner has a problem with alcohol or drugs.
• Your partner is insecure and has poor self-esteem.
• Your partner does not respect your limits or boundaries. Your partner does not listen to you.
• Your partner condones violence against women, does not respect women.
• Your partner needs someone to blame.
• Your partner is taking steps to keep you in isolation from your friends and family.

The following behavior is abusive and an indication that domestic violence has begun. Domestic violence may include emotional abuse such as insults, name calling, and attempts to isolate and control. This behavior typically escalates into physical and sexual abuse, and even the threat to use a weapon.